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60. With apologies

I know, it’s been a while since I wrote and I hate excuses as much as you do!

So I am not going to waste your time with excuses – I will just apologize to those of you who enjoy the written word as much as the vlogs. In the past couple of months I have done a lot of learning and a lot of looking at the world around me. As usual, I have come out of the time stronger than before. I have learned that people can just drop you in a heartbeat when it suits them, others can give you hours of unexpected time, some can hit incredibly hard times and still have a sense of humour.

I learned that one viewer visiting the broadcast can give us a great idea but if I do nothing with it it is just that… an idea. I am going to start our Free Bay page today! Free Bay is for viewers who have a sense of humour/humor and a post office box. Put your screen name and your post office box address (no real names) and then put what you would like to “collect” from fellow viewers. We have heard about fridge magnets, key rings, wines, cheeses and, of course, licorice!! To name just a few things that made us smile. We just thought it would be a fun thing to be able to send someone a ‘gift’

I have learned that even my hard-working camera can give up the ghost and die on me. When I thought of how many hours it had given me over the past year I cannot say I was surprised. I also didn’t feel like it was a lessor product. In fact, I bought the upgrade of my previous camera. It was fun to use and gave me a lot of good vids. I reward good behaviour! Even if the product dies of hard work. Pity it did it the month after the warranty ran out.

I always knew that the fall and winter would be harder on dear BeanBean. He is struggling a little more and I have had to increase his meds to compensate. It is a heartbreaking thing to do because each time I increase it I am equally lessening his time with me for there is a limit to how much I can give him. I am up to close to 3/4 of his total allocation, based on his weight. I am hoping that this dosage will hold him over the fall and winter because, if it does, then we might be able to stay together for  another year. Obviously, if I have to keep increasing it over the winter we will be running out of time together. So sad. We have come so far.

We have seen some wonderful growth from various members of the broadcast club. Lesley overcame her fear of the outside world enough to walk down her garden and close the gate. She looked over the fence and gave us the greatest smile! Roseann showed us a rare moment of total vulnerability as she struggled with a diagnosis of glaucoma over and above everything else she copes with every day. Jen is just weeks away from being married and found that the ability to make decision suddenly was missing.

I sit in awe of how this group of people have supported one another. How they, through their support of others, have grown. They have new understanding of each other, of their previous judgments and their coping skills. We are beginning to have a lot of people visit the broadcasts and thanking us for the positive contribution we are making.

For my part, I am amazed at how much difference we can make in our little world. One person at a time. We know people are paying it forward. We hear the stories.

 

YouTube Update – Week 60

Subscribers             3,882
Views                        126,698 from 171 countries
Blog views                7318
Non-Smoking Days    282 with a saving of $3,017.47



53. You are in the right place… at the right time!

I receive a lot of emails from viewers of our YouTube channel and one thing that I need to repeat, time and time again, is that you ARE in the right place and the right time.

 

Perhaps the most worrying this week was knowing that Coco, who is part of our TinyChat broadcast community,  had travelling to Oklahoma with her two sons just in time for the tornado. It took 24 hours to find out that she and the boys were safe but, with her usual up-beat attitude, she said it was good for the boys to learn what Oklahoma was really like. They are considering moving there.

 

Life brings us challenges and lessons. Sometimes we “get it” and sometimes we need to repeat the challenge or lesson until we “get it”. I am going through challenges at the moment – luckily they are not serious. I did not want to hear that my blood pressure was way too high and I know what caused it and what continues to push it up. I have taken some steps to reduce my stress.

 

I have to be grateful that we live in a time when medications are available to balance out things like blood pressure. However, one of the realities in my life is that I am now getting older and not able to do all the things I used to be able to do. I do a lot, don’t get me wrong! I just cannot do it all any more. A case in point was taking down the kitchen cupboard doors and repainting the first batch. I had not realized that, with arthritis, it was impossible for me to put them back on my own. It is almost impossible to lift, hold and level a cupboard door while holding a drill and screw…when you have arthritis. Actually, it made me wonder how I used to do it without.

 

The blessing in this is that one of my friends, Yvonne, noted that I had painted the doors but had not put them back up and she worked out why. She knows me well enough to know that asking for help is difficult for me. I have been self-sufficient for so many years.

 

I am really happy that I decided to take the time to repaint my kitchen cupboards while I save up the money to do a revamp of my kitchen. It has really brightened up the room. It is truly amazing what a difference a coat of paint and a some new hinges can do.

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Old dishwasher & cupboards

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New dishwasher & paint job

 

YouTube Upate – Week 38

Subscribers             2693
Views                       69,513 from 136 countries
Blog views               3,834
Non-Smoking Days  131 –   saving of $1,401.08

Lessons learned: Learning to ask for help will help me get things done more quickly!

 

 

51. Definitely a week of memories

You have heard me repeat the adage: Life is about memories, not things and this week was full of memories.

 

On the downside (ying and yang): there was the Boston Marathon sadness closely followed by the fertilizer plant explosion and the horrid loss of life in both. These extraordinary memories will be etched in my mind for a lifetime – thanks, in part, to the 24/7 exposure given by the media and leading me to wonder if anyone could receive a “fair” trial in this day and age. Trial by media appears to be the new normal. Today I heard about a 35 year old who lost her fight with cancer. A lot of sadness for one week.

On the upside: I was able to do the “meet and greet” with one of our regulars on the TinyChat group, fondly known as “our Glen” – not to be confused with the other Glen from BlogTV. We all have a fondness for Our Glen. He has made us laugh until we cried, has demonstrated a very keen sense of concern for members of the DearMamaSal community and I was looking forward to meeting him. I was not disappointed! I laughed more in one evening than I have since… since… omg… now that I think of it…. since Christmas Eve!!!

 

For those who missed the broadcasts where we discussed the evening, know that Glen was a delight, beautifully mannered and very much the character we have come to love. As we suspected we would, we talked (non-stop) for 5 hours and didn’t run out of topics, views or debates. Glen called the (take a breathe non-hockey fans) Canucks run into the play-offs to a ‘T’ and now I pray that they make a decent go of it. So it was a fun evening and definitely one of the memories of the week.

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Benji, Judy and Julianna came to visit and the few hours together flew by. It was amazing to think I had not seen them since January. http://youtu.be/XmBD0q6rBUk  Julianna had grown so much since I last held her.

 

To see her initially terrified by Beaner and then watch that fear turn to curiosity and then delight. Then to watch Beaner bring her his favourite toys… priceless. http://youtu.be/UnT-JKUMCA0

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The last major memory of this memorable week is that I have passed 100 days of being smoke-free!

YouTube Upate – Week 34

Subscribers             2476
Views                        60,300 from 131 countries
Blog views               3,691
Non-Smoking Days  100 –   saving of $1,107.65

Lessons learned: Take the chance to laugh – especially in a week full of grieving

 

 

49. It’s Spring in British Columbia!

There is something about Spring. It lifts the spirits. Yesterday was solid rain and tonight the sun is shining and life is just that much better, somehow. I know a lot of you are still experiencing winter but I thought I would brighten up your day with a pic of some of the tulips that greet me as I drive onto my driveway!

I love Thursday evenings. It is the start of my weekend – if you remember, I no longer work on Fridays. My little bit of retirement. Fridays is the day I work on the next steps for the DearMamaSal side of my life.DSC00237 I do research and try to learn a bit more about the technology. It normally ends up with a lot of time that feels like it is “wasted” because I don’t achieve a great deal but it all adds up to greater knowledge, in the end.

 

We have viewers of our TinyChat.com/dearmamasal channel who are going to meet up this weekend. So exciting that they feel they have made good enough friends that they can do that. Next week I do the same when I meet up with “Our Glen”DSC00236. I am really looking forward to that evening because I know we have lots to chat about and we always laugh a lot when we are on line so I am sure it will be a very entertaining evening. Luckily, the Canucks will not be playing that night but I do have another sports related subject that I want to discuss that night.

YouTube Upate – Week 32

Subscribers             2385
Views                        57,000 from 131 countries
Blog views               3,691
Non-Smoking Days  90 with as saving of $967.00 Cdn
 

Lessons learned: Sunshine just makes the whole world better

 

47. How to get to the new DearMamaSal broadcasts

This weekend we will stop using BlogTV and move our broadcasts to TinyChat. BlogTV was sold and we do not like the way that the site they are steering us towards (a) forces you to use your Facebook contacts and (b) makes you vote to keep someone on the air – imagine trying to help someone with a serious issue and suddenly getting booted because we were not trying to create LIKES? No, not the sort of thing we can work with.

 

We looked at a number of different platforms and, at the moment, TinyChat seems to work best for us. We are not beyond making another change – if we find something that is even better for us! We did some testing. Huge thanks to Re97 for the suggestion and to Jen for the hours she spent on line helping to get us comfortable with the new system. Also thanks to Katie, Nana, Em, Becca, AussiePIMP,  Laura and Lori (and anyone else I have, regrettably, possibly forgotten!) for joining in on our first (test) broadcast.

 

This is how it works. First, you go to http://tinychat.com/dearmamasal – it takes you directly to our page.

You will see a form. Here is what to do with it:

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1. Click on GUEST (not Facebook or Twitter)
2. Add the name we know you by or, if you are new, the name you would like to be known by
3. Press GO

 

 

 

 

 

 

It was wonderful to see Lori up on the screen and, gosh, how much fun was it to have 8 vids up at the same time?!! Jen was just in her element taking every question that required any research and, in a heartbeat, coming back with an answer! It became almost comical to watch her eyes react to “a need” and then watch them as she, obviously, multi-tasked to the answer. If ever you wanted to study body language this is the place to go!!

 

Huge congratulations go to Katie and our new friend Re97 (Roseann) who were discussing fibromyalgia, spina bifida, and other chronic pain issues. Being who we are, we could see a magical opportunity here! We challenged them to take their (collective) knowledge – one deals with the pain on meds; the other holistically – and start a page to help others in pain. It took them hours, not days/weeks/years to take that little seed and plant it!!! Here is there link: https://www.facebook.com/ExistingWithPain. Don’t you love what a difference we can make?

YouTube Channel Update – Week 30

Subscribers               2408
Views                        55,532 from 131 countries
Blog views                3,679
Non Smoking Days     70

Lessons learned: Asking for help is not always easy but it is almost always helpful and saves a lot of time!

Inspiration suggestion: Plant seeds in people – if they have a passion they will plant them and nurture them!