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60. With apologies

I know, it’s been a while since I wrote and I hate excuses as much as you do!

So I am not going to waste your time with excuses – I will just apologize to those of you who enjoy the written word as much as the vlogs. In the past couple of months I have done a lot of learning and a lot of looking at the world around me. As usual, I have come out of the time stronger than before. I have learned that people can just drop you in a heartbeat when it suits them, others can give you hours of unexpected time, some can hit incredibly hard times and still have a sense of humour.

I learned that one viewer visiting the broadcast can give us a great idea but if I do nothing with it it is just that… an idea. I am going to start our Free Bay page today! Free Bay is for viewers who have a sense of humour/humor and a post office box. Put your screen name and your post office box address (no real names) and then put what you would like to “collect” from fellow viewers. We have heard about fridge magnets, key rings, wines, cheeses and, of course, licorice!! To name just a few things that made us smile. We just thought it would be a fun thing to be able to send someone a ‘gift’

I have learned that even my hard-working camera can give up the ghost and die on me. When I thought of how many hours it had given me over the past year I cannot say I was surprised. I also didn’t feel like it was a lessor product. In fact, I bought the upgrade of my previous camera. It was fun to use and gave me a lot of good vids. I reward good behaviour! Even if the product dies of hard work. Pity it did it the month after the warranty ran out.

I always knew that the fall and winter would be harder on dear BeanBean. He is struggling a little more and I have had to increase his meds to compensate. It is a heartbreaking thing to do because each time I increase it I am equally lessening his time with me for there is a limit to how much I can give him. I am up to close to 3/4 of his total allocation, based on his weight. I am hoping that this dosage will hold him over the fall and winter because, if it does, then we might be able to stay together for  another year. Obviously, if I have to keep increasing it over the winter we will be running out of time together. So sad. We have come so far.

We have seen some wonderful growth from various members of the broadcast club. Lesley overcame her fear of the outside world enough to walk down her garden and close the gate. She looked over the fence and gave us the greatest smile! Roseann showed us a rare moment of total vulnerability as she struggled with a diagnosis of glaucoma over and above everything else she copes with every day. Jen is just weeks away from being married and found that the ability to make decision suddenly was missing.

I sit in awe of how this group of people have supported one another. How they, through their support of others, have grown. They have new understanding of each other, of their previous judgments and their coping skills. We are beginning to have a lot of people visit the broadcasts and thanking us for the positive contribution we are making.

For my part, I am amazed at how much difference we can make in our little world. One person at a time. We know people are paying it forward. We hear the stories.

 

YouTube Update – Week 60

Subscribers             3,882
Views                        126,698 from 171 countries
Blog views                7318
Non-Smoking Days    282 with a saving of $3,017.47



52. Red flags and the difficulty of telling the truth

I ventured across the border into the US yesterday. As usual, it was an interesting adventure. I had taken it really easy loading up the trailer – pack some, rest some, repeat until finished – and was feeling good.

 

I drove to Sumas crossing as it is the closest one to where I needed to go – Deming, Washington – and I also like the fact that the crossing is not as busy as the ones closer to me. Life was good. I was relaxed. I drove forward to the customs booth. “Nationality?” he said “Canadian but travelling on a British passport” I replied. “What did you say?” I repeated the words. He took my documents. Then he went into a tirade of words which I didn’t understand because I could not hear them over the burble of my Jeep’s V8 engine. “Could you repeat that please, sir?” Be polite, be patient and above all don’t get smart, Sal.

 

Omg, he repeated and I still didn’t hear. “I am sorry to have to ask you…” I was hanging half out of the window at this point, screwing up my eyes, trying to give him the body language to get him to understand his mumbling was not making it over the delightfully guttural burble of Mickey Blue Eyes (name of my Jeep). By now “he” was not amused. I knew he would send me in for vetting because they always do. What I didn’t know is that he had red flagged me for serious scrutiny for immigration “stuff” (not sure what the stuff was!!).

 

There is something to be said about being someone who crosses the border not too often but often enough to have a track record. The more senior guys, inside, took one look at their screen and said “So, you have become a Canadian! Why aren’t you using your Canadian passport?” I would have thought that was pretty darn obvious but held my tongue “Because I have not, as yet, applied for one”. “Why not?” Oh my, I wanted to scream “…because I didn’t know there was a necessity to do so when I still had a perfectly valid passport in my possession”. I took the safer route, “…because I didn’t make the time to do that yet”.

 

But not the end of my problems. Next the really nice man from the food and wildlife section was asking me what I had in the trailer. I listed off as much as I could in terms of apples, oranges, celery, a couple of avocado, cheese… then I faltered. I just couldn’t remember what was in my fridge. I wasn’t trying to be smart, I was struggling to remember and that made me more nervous. I apologized and used the age card “… gee, this getting older really does effect the memory. If I have forgotten anything it is not intentional, it is because I genuinely cannot remember” Then came the really embarrassing part “When did you load the trailer?” What could I do but tell the truth “A couple of hours ago”. “… and you cannot remember what you put in the fridge?!” I didn’t know how to answer that except with a very pathetic “… apparently not and I am embarrassed to admit that”. ‘I see we gave you a pamphlet on what foods you could bring into the States about a year ago. Why didn’t you follow that instruction?” Again, I resisted the “…because, obviously, I lost the darn thing!” and said sheepishly “I lost it”.

 

Notes to self:

1. Get your Canadian passport sorted out ASAP

2. Keep that allowable foods pamphlet in the trailer!

3. Find out why oranges can come from the US but may not return. Weird. Apples can but not oranges clearly marked that they come from the US. Anyone know why?!

48. One thing at a time, PLEASE! March 28, 2013

I am at home, sick with some virus that last week attacked my stomach and this week decided to hit my glands and, possibly, my kidneys. Fun stuff. You can imagine I am not feeling too switft with the swollen legs (edema) and the excessive saliva production and did I mention my blood pressure went haywire as well?

 

Imagine my delight when I just found a huge filling had worked loose on one of my molars. It is true that I have a great sense of humour but this is now lunchtime and I cannot find out if my test results are back or if I can make an appointment with my dentist today – before the nerves start flaring and I end up with severe toothache for Easter!

 

Please grant me patience to get these things dealt with in the right order and with minimum discomfort.

 YouTube Upate – Week 30

Subscribers               2409
Views                        55,9752 from 131 countries
Blog views                3,682
Non Smoking Days     76

Lessons learned: It is difficult to stay home (to rest the body) when you know the bills need to get paid and you have used up your “sick” days.

 

45. How do I thank you all? Even the weirdos with fetishes!!

It has been a magical week. We hit 50,000 views from 131 countries and now I am in the awe-struck stage. Who would have “thunk” it?! I came on to YouTube to, hopefully, help a few people. I never dreamed that people from 131 countries would come and visit.

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My favourite day of the week was Monday when these beautiful flowers arrived from Benji, Judy and Julianna to congratulate me on becoming a Canadian and also to congratulate me on the stop smoking progress. Aren’t they just too beautiful for words? I brought them home this evening. They have spent the week at work bringing smiles,” ooohs and aahs”, pangs of jealousy, and other emotions to so many people. 

 

I received a great quote this week but I have no idea where the quote came from so I will give my version of it rather than infringe a copyright. Live a life that matters… every day. It doesn’t matter what you have but rather what you gave. It doesn’t matter what you learned but rather what you taught. Get the idea?

 

It is really strange how many people have been writing to me about the non-smoking thing. I got an email early this morning thanking me and telling me I was an inspiration. This person saw me strong and courageous. Yet, as I read another email from the same person I found out that they are really sick. Terminal, in fact. They are so in awe of the fact that I created my own “family” in my life. My personal support team. My Cheerleaders. They so desperately wanted that. I explained that that was the very reason I started DearMamaSal – to provide that extended family feel for those who needed it.

 

I love the “Our Pets” page! If you haven’t checked it out … do so, it is bound to make you smile at least once! During one of our BlogTV sessions someone suggested that we might want to have a “Movies we have enjoyed” page as well. Let me know if you would like that or send your input to dearmamasal@gmail.com and I will start the page and see how people react to it. Don’t feel you have to send us the intelligent recommendations… send the truth! The movies you enjoyed. Not the ones the critics thought you should enjoy!

 

Another week and more leaning. I just find it so hard to thank everyone who made these milestones possible. Big hugs to you all.

YouTube Channel Update – Week 27

Subscribers  2435
Views            53,241 from 131 countries
Blog views   3655

Lessons learned: There are strange people in the world… I put up a vid on how I keep my nails so long, white and beautiful and the weirdos (with fetishes) came out and contacted me. Not something I expected at 65!!! hehehehe

 

 

 

 

 

35. My most embarrassing morning!

My one “son”, Cisco” always reminds me that life is truly about memories and not things. This was a memorable week.

I was truly excited to become a Canadian. Invited my “rent a family” (I do not have familly here in Canada, not blood family that is). Most pitched up to watch this memorable moment. However, to my horror it turned out that it was not the ceremony but rather a checking of all the original documents I had used for my application. Imagine my embarrassment. All these wonderful friends had given up precious time, fought through rush hour traffic and one had come all the way from the States. It was not to be!

We laughed until we cried and I knew that, in that moment, I had the most wonderful group of friends. They all took it in their stride. Sipped on their cofffes and chai teas and told stories. They make my world such a happy place and I am blessed to have them in my life. Blessed that they all just laughed it off as a “Sal moment” and assured me they would be there when the real day came.

My ego was a little bent out of shape and a little part of me felt so sad that I had wasted people’s time but I must say that, overall, it was a very funny memory and one I am sure I will not be allowed to forget in this lifetime!

It has beeen a huge couple of weeks on the YouTube site – particially due to a really big boost during one BlogTV session where we were the featured video. I struggled to answer all the questions, following that broadcast but stuck to it until I had cleared them all.

I love that we have created this little band of people when we do these broadcasts. It is wonderful to have a team of people around the help manage the hecklers and add wisdom when I am busy helping someone. I am so very grateful to them.

The more we do this the more I am convinced that this was a much needed tool for so many young people. The question, most of which are sent privately and not seen by the viewers to YouTube,  are both varied  and heartbreaking. I see so many youngsters being severely stressed out because of the expectations of their parents. One came from a 12 year old who was terrified she might not hang on to her #1  spot in her class and the possible disappointment to the family. she was truly traumatized by the prospect of what woud happen if she didn’t keep her #1 ranking. So sad to read.

I hate to admit it but I am really getting much better about the vlogging thing! Quite miss it when I do not do one 🙂 The edits and uploading still take time but probably half the time that it took a few months ago!

Life is good and I have wonderful friends!

To watch the astonishing transformation of Beaner from abandoned to adored:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iJPW5vxBG5s

YouTube Channel Update – Week 14
Subscribers  1671
Views           from 120 countries
Blog views   1924

Lesson remembered :  something written in my autograph book from 55 years ago. Author unknown :  

“True friends are like diamonds
Precious and rare.
False friends, like autumn leaves
Are found everywhere”

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