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60. With apologies

I know, it’s been a while since I wrote and I hate excuses as much as you do!

So I am not going to waste your time with excuses – I will just apologize to those of you who enjoy the written word as much as the vlogs. In the past couple of months I have done a lot of learning and a lot of looking at the world around me. As usual, I have come out of the time stronger than before. I have learned that people can just drop you in a heartbeat when it suits them, others can give you hours of unexpected time, some can hit incredibly hard times and still have a sense of humour.

I learned that one viewer visiting the broadcast can give us a great idea but if I do nothing with it it is just that… an idea. I am going to start our Free Bay page today! Free Bay is for viewers who have a sense of humour/humor and a post office box. Put your screen name and your post office box address (no real names) and then put what you would like to “collect” from fellow viewers. We have heard about fridge magnets, key rings, wines, cheeses and, of course, licorice!! To name just a few things that made us smile. We just thought it would be a fun thing to be able to send someone a ‘gift’

I have learned that even my hard-working camera can give up the ghost and die on me. When I thought of how many hours it had given me over the past year I cannot say I was surprised. I also didn’t feel like it was a lessor product. In fact, I bought the upgrade of my previous camera. It was fun to use and gave me a lot of good vids. I reward good behaviour! Even if the product dies of hard work. Pity it did it the month after the warranty ran out.

I always knew that the fall and winter would be harder on dear BeanBean. He is struggling a little more and I have had to increase his meds to compensate. It is a heartbreaking thing to do because each time I increase it I am equally lessening his time with me for there is a limit to how much I can give him. I am up to close to 3/4 of his total allocation, based on his weight. I am hoping that this dosage will hold him over the fall and winter because, if it does, then we might be able to stay together for  another year. Obviously, if I have to keep increasing it over the winter we will be running out of time together. So sad. We have come so far.

We have seen some wonderful growth from various members of the broadcast club. Lesley overcame her fear of the outside world enough to walk down her garden and close the gate. She looked over the fence and gave us the greatest smile! Roseann showed us a rare moment of total vulnerability as she struggled with a diagnosis of glaucoma over and above everything else she copes with every day. Jen is just weeks away from being married and found that the ability to make decision suddenly was missing.

I sit in awe of how this group of people have supported one another. How they, through their support of others, have grown. They have new understanding of each other, of their previous judgments and their coping skills. We are beginning to have a lot of people visit the broadcasts and thanking us for the positive contribution we are making.

For my part, I am amazed at how much difference we can make in our little world. One person at a time. We know people are paying it forward. We hear the stories.

 

YouTube Update – Week 60

Subscribers             3,882
Views                        126,698 from 171 countries
Blog views                7318
Non-Smoking Days    282 with a saving of $3,017.47



53. You are in the right place… at the right time!

I receive a lot of emails from viewers of our YouTube channel and one thing that I need to repeat, time and time again, is that you ARE in the right place and the right time.

 

Perhaps the most worrying this week was knowing that Coco, who is part of our TinyChat broadcast community,  had travelling to Oklahoma with her two sons just in time for the tornado. It took 24 hours to find out that she and the boys were safe but, with her usual up-beat attitude, she said it was good for the boys to learn what Oklahoma was really like. They are considering moving there.

 

Life brings us challenges and lessons. Sometimes we “get it” and sometimes we need to repeat the challenge or lesson until we “get it”. I am going through challenges at the moment – luckily they are not serious. I did not want to hear that my blood pressure was way too high and I know what caused it and what continues to push it up. I have taken some steps to reduce my stress.

 

I have to be grateful that we live in a time when medications are available to balance out things like blood pressure. However, one of the realities in my life is that I am now getting older and not able to do all the things I used to be able to do. I do a lot, don’t get me wrong! I just cannot do it all any more. A case in point was taking down the kitchen cupboard doors and repainting the first batch. I had not realized that, with arthritis, it was impossible for me to put them back on my own. It is almost impossible to lift, hold and level a cupboard door while holding a drill and screw…when you have arthritis. Actually, it made me wonder how I used to do it without.

 

The blessing in this is that one of my friends, Yvonne, noted that I had painted the doors but had not put them back up and she worked out why. She knows me well enough to know that asking for help is difficult for me. I have been self-sufficient for so many years.

 

I am really happy that I decided to take the time to repaint my kitchen cupboards while I save up the money to do a revamp of my kitchen. It has really brightened up the room. It is truly amazing what a difference a coat of paint and a some new hinges can do.

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Old dishwasher & cupboards

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New dishwasher & paint job

 

YouTube Upate – Week 38

Subscribers             2693
Views                       69,513 from 136 countries
Blog views               3,834
Non-Smoking Days  131 –   saving of $1,401.08

Lessons learned: Learning to ask for help will help me get things done more quickly!

 

 

47. How to get to the new DearMamaSal broadcasts

This weekend we will stop using BlogTV and move our broadcasts to TinyChat. BlogTV was sold and we do not like the way that the site they are steering us towards (a) forces you to use your Facebook contacts and (b) makes you vote to keep someone on the air – imagine trying to help someone with a serious issue and suddenly getting booted because we were not trying to create LIKES? No, not the sort of thing we can work with.

 

We looked at a number of different platforms and, at the moment, TinyChat seems to work best for us. We are not beyond making another change – if we find something that is even better for us! We did some testing. Huge thanks to Re97 for the suggestion and to Jen for the hours she spent on line helping to get us comfortable with the new system. Also thanks to Katie, Nana, Em, Becca, AussiePIMP,  Laura and Lori (and anyone else I have, regrettably, possibly forgotten!) for joining in on our first (test) broadcast.

 

This is how it works. First, you go to http://tinychat.com/dearmamasal – it takes you directly to our page.

You will see a form. Here is what to do with it:

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1. Click on GUEST (not Facebook or Twitter)
2. Add the name we know you by or, if you are new, the name you would like to be known by
3. Press GO

 

 

 

 

 

 

It was wonderful to see Lori up on the screen and, gosh, how much fun was it to have 8 vids up at the same time?!! Jen was just in her element taking every question that required any research and, in a heartbeat, coming back with an answer! It became almost comical to watch her eyes react to “a need” and then watch them as she, obviously, multi-tasked to the answer. If ever you wanted to study body language this is the place to go!!

 

Huge congratulations go to Katie and our new friend Re97 (Roseann) who were discussing fibromyalgia, spina bifida, and other chronic pain issues. Being who we are, we could see a magical opportunity here! We challenged them to take their (collective) knowledge – one deals with the pain on meds; the other holistically – and start a page to help others in pain. It took them hours, not days/weeks/years to take that little seed and plant it!!! Here is there link: https://www.facebook.com/ExistingWithPain. Don’t you love what a difference we can make?

YouTube Channel Update – Week 30

Subscribers               2408
Views                        55,532 from 131 countries
Blog views                3,679
Non Smoking Days     70

Lessons learned: Asking for help is not always easy but it is almost always helpful and saves a lot of time!

Inspiration suggestion: Plant seeds in people – if they have a passion they will plant them and nurture them!

45. How do I thank you all? Even the weirdos with fetishes!!

It has been a magical week. We hit 50,000 views from 131 countries and now I am in the awe-struck stage. Who would have “thunk” it?! I came on to YouTube to, hopefully, help a few people. I never dreamed that people from 131 countries would come and visit.

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My favourite day of the week was Monday when these beautiful flowers arrived from Benji, Judy and Julianna to congratulate me on becoming a Canadian and also to congratulate me on the stop smoking progress. Aren’t they just too beautiful for words? I brought them home this evening. They have spent the week at work bringing smiles,” ooohs and aahs”, pangs of jealousy, and other emotions to so many people. 

 

I received a great quote this week but I have no idea where the quote came from so I will give my version of it rather than infringe a copyright. Live a life that matters… every day. It doesn’t matter what you have but rather what you gave. It doesn’t matter what you learned but rather what you taught. Get the idea?

 

It is really strange how many people have been writing to me about the non-smoking thing. I got an email early this morning thanking me and telling me I was an inspiration. This person saw me strong and courageous. Yet, as I read another email from the same person I found out that they are really sick. Terminal, in fact. They are so in awe of the fact that I created my own “family” in my life. My personal support team. My Cheerleaders. They so desperately wanted that. I explained that that was the very reason I started DearMamaSal – to provide that extended family feel for those who needed it.

 

I love the “Our Pets” page! If you haven’t checked it out … do so, it is bound to make you smile at least once! During one of our BlogTV sessions someone suggested that we might want to have a “Movies we have enjoyed” page as well. Let me know if you would like that or send your input to dearmamasal@gmail.com and I will start the page and see how people react to it. Don’t feel you have to send us the intelligent recommendations… send the truth! The movies you enjoyed. Not the ones the critics thought you should enjoy!

 

Another week and more leaning. I just find it so hard to thank everyone who made these milestones possible. Big hugs to you all.

YouTube Channel Update – Week 27

Subscribers  2435
Views            53,241 from 131 countries
Blog views   3655

Lessons learned: There are strange people in the world… I put up a vid on how I keep my nails so long, white and beautiful and the weirdos (with fetishes) came out and contacted me. Not something I expected at 65!!! hehehehe